Motherly wives

This is a letter to all those ladies who have adopted a grown up child from their mother in law. Ladies you have enough roles to play being a daughter, sister, friend, colleague, wife, sister in law, daughter in law, a mother to your kids and some  still have choosed to be a mother to their mother in laws kid. How sweet!!

I  have came across ladies who are busy 24* 7 in kitchens  or doing some or the other thing, at the cost of relaxation, they never have that me time. And the worst part is they are not even aware of it. These ladies are of different species, who sleep and get up with the same thought of list of work to be done for their kids and family. I understand helping the child and elders out in some situations, making things handy for them or providing them things at their place.

I have seen ladies who get up early to boil the milk and remove the chilkas of soaked almonds for their husband, while he exercises. Without a thought of having one almond for her. Keeping his clothes ready till he has bath, serving his breakfast, filling tiffin and keeping in his bag. Remember those filmy wives who kept the wallet, tie, socks, tiffin ready for husbands. So lovey dovey,but that’s the film my dear. Some  ladies are not able to peep out of their house for days due to unfinished list of work always hurrying from one to other and on the other hand their husband, having fun relaxing, and walking out with their phones ringing. Life is easy for them, they get everything in hand. They sit on table and food is served. 

Today we appreciate men for they helped women in her house hold work. Some are even having a question how long will they do it? If women can take the ownership of everything at home why can’t men? Ideally speaking in many cases house belong to men, at least the name plate shows his name. But keeping the house clean tidy and house hold chores all are always women’s responsibility. Why? Then why not have door names changed?

Loving him is different and serving him like a maid is different. Love is when you both do it for each other. Give him Opportunity  to do it for you sometimes.Let him serve you  food, share that glass of milk with you. 

While you give others an excuse of his busy and tough schedule, you are fooling yourself. Enough of mother in you be a wife.

Guys if you make a list of things we women do it may cross hundred in number. Grow up and do your own thing, now even Prime minister as declared to be ‘Swavalambi’ and ‘Atmnanirbhar’, It’s a national emergency. You are setting an example in front of your children. Do you really want them to be so lazy like you? Yes, why can’t you help yourself remove those chilkas and boil milk for your wife to rest for ten more minutes?

Helping her in cooking, keeping house clean will not hurt your masculinity. You can take charge of some activities in your limits; at least do your own things. Get yourself served like you do when you attend a party having buffet. Help her serve your parents with medicines, food etc. make your bed, clean your room, get children dressed up.

I have seen men ordering to get breakfast in the place they are sitting, ordering for water or tea. I have seen them finishing their eating and leaving the utensils on the table itself. Oh MAN….atmanibhar bano….let your wife breath.

And oh motherly wife it’s completely your fault that you are raising up your child but not your mother in laws. You are discouraging a grown person to be Self dependant. Let him explore his own things; let him be the part of his activities, his needs. Let him take the ownership of the room in his own house where he has his name carved on the Main door.

This has nothing to do with lockdown. There is something called self dependance, so let him be. He is your husband, elder to you in age, not your child who is decades younger than you. You are partners, so share your parts of responsibility. While you are training him, train your son so that he grows up to be husband and not grown up kid for his wife.